Report Card for Parents.

Allow your children to grade you with complete freedom. Then after they have finished you can talk about your grade. Remember to listen and not become defensive.

Please grade the following with a grade of A,B,C,D or F.

Dad (Mom) shows that he (she) loves me ____
Dad (Mom) is fair in his (her) decisions ____
Dad (Mom) is interested in my feelings ____
Dad (Mom) admits when he (she) is wrong ____
Dad (Mom) spends enough time with me ____
Dad (Mom) controls his (her) anger and words ____
Dad (Mom) listens to what I say ____
Dad (Mom) is fun ____
Dad (Mom) trusts me ____
Dad (Mom) respects me ____
Dad (Mom) enjoys being with me ____
Dad (Mom) provides spiritual leadership ____
Dad (Mom) makes me a priority in his (her) life ____

Overall Grade ____

On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 is best), what kind of relationship do you want with Dad
(Mom)? ____

On the same scale, where are you today in your relationship with Dad (Mom)? ____

If your Dad (Mom) could do three things to raise his (her) grade to a 10, what would they
be?
1.
2.
3.

In Deuteronomy 6:4-7, God instructs parents to teach children about following him. In
what three areas of your spiritual walk would you like you dad or mom to help?
1.
2.
3.

This approach opens the door for great conversations. But be careful when using this
process. This isn’t a time to defend your position; you can only ask questions to clarify a
response. Remember: “Do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged”
(Colossians 3:21).

Another example….

Parent Report Card

Rate from 1  to 10 – 1 being the lowest score and 10 being the highest.

Feel free to change Mom to Dad…

My mom takes good care of me.  ___

My mom loves me.  ___

My mom yells too much (1 means yells way too much; 10 never yells).  ___

My mom nags too much (1 means nags way too much; 10 means never nags).  ___

My mom respects me and my opinions (1 means doesn’t respect me at all; 10 is respects me very much).  ___

My mom treats my friends well.  ___

My mom is negative. (1 means very negative; 10 means very positive, upbeat).  ___

My mom spends enough time with me (1 means no time with me; 10 means lots of time).  ___

My mom is too demanding (expects too much of me) (1 means expects way too much; 10 meaning, let’s me do things at my own pace).  ___

My mom cares too much about what I eat/about my physical health (1 means cares way too much; 10 means doesn’t care at all).  ___

My mom helps me grow closer to God (1 means she does a great job; 10 she doesn’t help me at all).  ___

My mom loves my dad.  ___

My mom respects my dad.  ___

My mom loves God.  ___

My mom likes me to have fun. ___

My mom is fun. ___

I rate my relationship with my mom as a ___ (1 to 10)

What things would you like me (Mom)  to do differently, how can I be a better mom to you?______________________________________________________________________________________________

In what areas do I need to be a better example to you? __________________________________________________________________________________________________

Any other comments?